Third truth about fear, which is very interesting in my opinion, is that the only way... Oh, sorry. I'm half-stumbled. The only way to feel better or to have a better opinion of yourself is to do something that scares you. And that, again, is a bit like what I was telling you just before. When I recorded my first video, it was a great moment for me because I was scared. I did something that scared me and suddenly I felt good. I felt good about myself, I gained self-confidence, I had more assurance. So that's a good way in the end. And it's even the only way. The only way to really feel good and have more self-confidence is to do something that scares you.
I will always be afraid in unknown territory and I am not the only one. So this truth is twofold. Again, it seems obvious and logical, but when we are in an unknown situation, we are always a little afraid, and that is normal, we are designed that way.
We've talked about this several times in past episodes, but our brain is made like that, our brain has an emotional part that, in a model that I find cool and that is described in the book The belgium whatsapp number data Chimpanzee Paradox , is described precisely as being a chimpanzee. We have this emotional part, we have a chimpanzee in our head that is there to make us survive, we have to survive for the chimpanzee. While we have another part that is more emotional, more rational, that wants us to succeed and be happy.
But we will always have this chimpanzee that is stronger than the human, the rational part of the brain that will be afraid in unknown territory. So that is normal and we are not the only ones because we are all built the same, we all have a brain that is built on the same model and we all have the same emotional reactions. So, it is completely normal to be afraid in unknown territory. And even if some people seem to have a lot of confidence in themselves and not know fear, well that is false, it is a myth. Everyone is afraid, more or less of course, in unknown territory and that is important to keep in mind.
And finally, fifthly, acting against fear is less scary than living with fear. What does that mean? Acting against fear, so that's what we were saying earlier, the only way to remove fear is to act, eh, it's ultimately less scary than keeping fear permanently.
Again, if I take the example of YouTube videos, imagine, I want to make YouTube videos but I'm afraid, so I'm always going to be afraid, I'll say to myself: "Pick up the phone, Johan, or pick up a camera. No, I'm afraid". So, I'm going to feel fear. If I don't act, if I don't do, this fear will always be there, I'm going to keep this fear all the time, forever. And so this fear, it will be strong. But if one day, I say: "Come on Johan, stop, go ahead, make the video". Of course, I'll have a little bit of fear at the time, but then the fear will go away. Acting against fear takes it away, it's less scary in the end, in the end, than keeping this fear inside us all the time.