what I realized is that when I took motivation

[jrineakter]

find that this mindset leads to guilt, leads to making things a little too binary, that is to say either you succeed, it's because you did what was necessary, or you fail because you didn't do enough. And above all, in fact, what I think is that sometimes the game is not worth the candle. When we say "the game is not worth the candle", it means that the efforts or sacrifices that we must make to achieve a result are too great compared to the result. The result is not worth all the efforts made.

In fact, what you have to understand is that discipline is a reservoir. So, when you don't feel like doing something and you push yourself, it's a reservoir. So, I'm going to do a little thing that I don't want to do, it's going to take from my motivation reservoir. And the more I do things that I don't want to do, well, the more I'm going to empty my reservoir.

I remember a time when I read this book by Goggins and I said to myself: "Well, I'm going to try to have more motivation, more willpower. I'm going to take a cold shower every day." Yes, of course, I managed to do it. It was possible. It allowed me to... well, I don't really know. But in any case, I was able to do it for more than six months. It was winter. I was living in France at the time, in the northeast of France. It was winter, the water was freezing, I couldn't breathe, but I did it for more than six months. Well, there was also an impact on the body. I had followed the Wim Hof ​​method, also called "the ice man", which recommends yoga breathing exercises and cold treatment.

But from my tank for cold showers, well, I had less to work on Authentic French, I had less to stay calm when my children tested me. Sometimes, you need patience and you don't have any more patience if you've taken a cold shower and you've done nothing but effort all day long.

Obviously, I'm not saying that we should remain passive, not make an effort. It's important to make an effort, that's clear. Getting out of our comfort zone allows us to expand this reservoir of motivation. So, it's important. On the other hand, if we do too much and if we get out of balance, there are a certain number of dangers. So, of course, if we only do what we want, we don't progress, that's clear, we have to get out of our comfort zone, but in my opinion, it's all a question of balance.

I often try to get out of my comfort zone in a somewhat clever way. So, for example, I try to make the choices easy to avoid having to dig too deep into my motivation reservoir. For example, I like it when there are no sweets in the house because I know that if there aren't any, well, I don't have to rely on my motivation to not have any. That's a first example. Or else, they are hidden. If we ever say to ourselves: "Well, there have to be some sweets for the children from time to time", even if we try not to give them too many. OK, I accept, but I hide them and I make it easier for me to grab a fruit than a sweet, than a candy. So, I try to make the choices easy.

I try to limit distractions. I put my phone on airplane mode, I put it away from me when I'm working, so that I don't want to pick it up and not actually struggle with motivation and say to myself: "It's there next to me, but I'm not going to pick it up." I try to make it easier to start rather than force myself when I don't feel like italy whatsapp number data writing an email or recording a video, well, I make sure that the night before, when I know I'm going to have to write a script or an email and I might not feel like it, well, I prepare everything. I already have my computer ready, window open, I just have to type, I just have to start. And that works really well. The camera, when I know I'm going to shoot, it's already ready to limit the motivation drain, because I know that motivation is a reservoir.

I also try to focus on few things. I make choices. I know that my main priorities are: Authentic French, my personal development, my family. I put them in random order. All three are super important to me. But suddenly, I make choices, that is to say I don't do social, I don't network. I don't belong to creator networks, etc. even if I'm often invited to do so. And it's not that I don't want to, it's not that I feel superior, it's just that I have to make choices, because otherwise I know that I'm going to have to draw on my motivation all the time and that there will be lots of distractions.

So, as usual, it's all about balance actually. We can tell ourselves that we have to make an effort. Obviously, I'm the first to say that we have to make an effort, that we have to work hard, that we have to be moral. I talk a lot about morality in this podcast too, and living a moral life is hard. You have to make an effort for that. I'm for delayed gratification. I've talked about it a lot too. So, all that, yes. On the other hand, forcing yourself, pushing yourself, basing everything you do on strength without wanting when you fail, putting enormous pressure on yourself, there, I say "no". Balance is sometimes difficult to find, but it's the key.